A while back I began following a page on Facebook called “Feel Good Giving Birth”. It’s an empowering look at birth and motherhood, with the stance that all women are capable and strong, and shouldn’t fear bringing their baby into the world. I dig it.
Those of you who’ve been reading for some time may remember that I posted the birth story from my third baby, Ella.
(It was amazing – check out that post HERE)
Delivering Ella was a profoundly moving experience for me, and I feel like the third time was sort of that charm in that sense… meaning that I felt like I was in control – of my body and my experience. I wasn’t scared and I didn’t feel like everything was happening to me inside of being really present and experiencing the moment.
I know it sounds kind of hokey, but it’s true. Dare I say, I almost enjoyed it. LOL.
So when FGGB put out the call on Facebook for moms to submit their birth stories, I jumped at the opportunity. There were going to be a number of submissions chosen to be included in a book that’s being published this Christmas – how amazing, right? So I edited my story and sent it in with some photos.
Lo and behold, a few weeks later I got an email… not only had my story been chosen to be featured in the book, but they had also chosen a photo of me and Ella to be on the COVER!
I am beyond excited and honoured to even be a part of such a lovely project, let alone have our photo featured on the cover. The book is going to be a compilation of true birth stories, with the goal of empowering women and reminding them that they are MORE than capable of bringing their baby into the world.
My labour and delivery with Ella was remarkable in that I did feel strong. I felt pretty amazing, actually. Unfortunately it took three tries before I was able to deliver a baby the way that felt right to me, but I’m so grateful that I did finally reach that place, and if I can help another woman experience that kind of birth on her first try I’d be SO thrilled.
Giving birth is such an unexplainable mystery unless you’ve experienced it yourself. It’s just one of those things that cannot be described or simulated no matter how hard we try. I completely understand how terrifying it can be – and why – but it really doesn’t need to be that way. In my birth story post that I linked above I talked about how pregnancy has become a condition that is treated like an illness… hospitals, doctors, and a lot of unnecessary intervention. Trust me, I’m not one to push a particular birth style on anyone, but I do think that every mom-to-be would be wise to remember that delivering a baby is quite literally the most natural thing in the world. There is most definitely a time and a place for doctors – including during pregnancy – but expectant women are not sick. They do not need to be treated like patients. Your care as a pregnant woman does not need to be cold, sterile and impersonal.
A book like this one is wonderful because it will share stories of a number of different experiences. I think that one of best things a woman can do is explore all her options when it comes to her birth. There are doctors, midwives, doulas and more. There are home births, hospital births, birthing centres… don’t write any of these off. Talk to friends, research, find what’s best for you.
When I had my first baby in 2004 I asked no questions and just did what I was told. I was in the care of a great doctor and delivered in a hospital. With my second and third babies I knew that I wanted to be a more active participant in the process. I spoke to friends, found information online and talked a lot with my husband about the kind of pregnancy and delivery I wanted to have. In doing that, I found my midwives and it was the best decision I ever made!
(My gushing midwife post can be found HERE)
There is a Kick Starter fund set up to help get this book published, so fingers crossed it reaches its goal in time! I cannot wait to read the finished product.