Exciting News!

A while back I began following a page on Facebook called “Feel Good Giving Birth”. It’s an empowering look at birth and motherhood, with the stance that all women are capable and strong, and shouldn’t fear bringing their baby into the world. I dig it.

Those of you who’ve been reading for some time may remember that I posted the birth story from my third baby, Ella.

(It was amazing – check out that post HERE)

Delivering Ella was a profoundly moving experience for me, and I feel like the third time was sort of that charm in that sense… meaning that I felt like I was in control – of my body and my experience. I wasn’t scared and I didn’t feel like everything was happening to me inside of being really present and experiencing the moment.

I know it sounds kind of hokey, but it’s true. Dare I say, I almost enjoyed it. LOL.

So when FGGB put out the call on Facebook for moms to submit their birth stories, I jumped at the opportunity. There were going to be a number of submissions chosen to be included in a book that’s being published this Christmas – how amazing, right? So I edited my story and sent it in with some photos.

Lo and behold, a few weeks later I got an email… not only had my story been chosen to be featured in the book, but they had also chosen a photo of me and Ella to be on the COVER!

The official book cover!

The official book cover!

I am beyond excited and honoured to even be a part of such a lovely project, let alone have our photo featured on the cover. The book is going to be a compilation of true birth stories, with the goal of empowering women and reminding them that they are MORE than capable of bringing their baby into the world.

My labour and delivery with Ella was remarkable in that I did feel strong. I felt pretty amazing, actually. Unfortunately it took three tries before I was able to deliver a baby the way that felt right to me, but I’m so grateful that I did finally reach that place, and if I can help another woman experience that kind of birth on her first try I’d be SO thrilled.

Bliss!

Bliss!

Giving birth is such an unexplainable mystery unless you’ve experienced it yourself. It’s just one of those things that cannot be described or simulated no matter how hard we try. I completely understand how terrifying it can be – and why – but it really doesn’t need to be that way. In my birth story post that I linked above I talked about how pregnancy has become a condition that is treated like an illness… hospitals, doctors, and a lot of unnecessary intervention. Trust me, I’m not one to push a particular birth style on anyone, but I do think that every mom-to-be would be wise to remember that delivering a baby is quite literally the most natural thing in the world. There is most definitely a time and a place for doctors – including during pregnancy – but expectant women are not sick. They do not need to be treated like patients. Your care as a pregnant woman does not need to be cold, sterile and impersonal.

A book like this one is wonderful because it will share stories of a number of different experiences. I think that one of best things a woman can do is explore all her options when it comes to her birth. There are doctors, midwives, doulas and more. There are home births, hospital births, birthing centres… don’t write any of these off. Talk to friends, research, find what’s best for you.

When I had my first baby in 2004 I asked no questions and just did what I was told. I was in the care of a great doctor and delivered in a hospital. With my second and third babies I knew that I wanted to be a more active participant in the process. I spoke to friends, found information online and talked a lot with my husband about the kind of pregnancy and delivery I wanted to have. In doing that, I found my midwives and it was the best decision I ever made!

(My gushing midwife post can be found HERE)

There is a Kick Starter fund set up to help get this book published, so fingers crossed it reaches its goal in time! I cannot wait to read the finished product.
xoMB

 

 

Keeping Clutter Undercover

Good morning!

Hope everyone had a fun weekend… on Saturday night we actually had ZERO kids and snapped up the chance to go see “Gone Girl”. It was sooooo good. I haven’t read the book, so I was dying to get to the theatre to see it before the end was spoiled for me. Thankfully I made it there without so much as a hint to what happens – hooray! It’s one of those movies that really sticks with you after you leave – and not just because of Ben Affleck’s 0.5 second full frontal… hahaha.

Definitely check it out, it was great. (The movie!! Get your minds out of the gutter, people!)

So – back to reality, which in my world mainly consists of trying to keep my house clean while simultaneously entertaining my kids and managing their 9173 toys.

Do you ever peruse your favourite blogs and wonder… “Where the hell is all their STUFF?”

I mean their real stuff.. not their magazines and candles and floral arrangements and pieces of drift wood. I know where those are – artfully displayed on coffee tables, buffets and consoles. I mean their CRAP. The toys, the pens, the dvds, the diapers… you know, the stuff they (we all) actually USE! It actually puts me off when I see people on these blogs try to present their home like a house that is magazine ready every moment – it’s like no one actually lives there.

Well, guess what? We live here. So I thought I would make a post sharing where I hide all the goodies. It’s nothing ground breaking, but I’ve gotten creative over the years and with three kids and three pets in this 1600 square foot house, finding spots for everything is hard. So today I am pulling back the curtain – literally – and showing you my dirty secrets!

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I’m going to stick with our main living and dining areas, since that’s where I worry most about how things look. I’m not too concerned about toys and “stuff” in the kids’ rooms or in the basement playroom – ya know, cause it’s a play room and stuff. But in the family room I like to try to keep things decent. That basically means lots of hiding junk.

This is what it generally looks like:

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I have actuallly changed things around a bit since this photo was taken, but the basics are the same. It’s tidy, but lived in. I do not live in a catalogue and I’m fine with that. But I still like things to look nice! Check this out…

The lovely curtains in the family room? Don’t look behind them!

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Yup… behind curtain #1 we have a Mega Blocks table and behind #2 is what we refer to as “Batman Town”. Then I have the curtains in the dining room. If you peek behind one of them you’ll find Cal’s car mat:

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Then I have my LOVELY midcentury modern console under the TV… I think this is my favourite piece of furniture in the house. You’d think we store our entertainment stuff in there….

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But no… there’s nothing remotely related to the television in there:

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Then we head into the dining room, which is where I use my bookcases to the max. (Yup… 1990, baby… to. the. max.)

Love this room... and the secrets it holds!

Love this room… and the secrets it holds!

Let’s take a look at that first photo again:

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See the numbers? Let’s take a closer look…

#1 – The 800 pens. I simply took a mason style jar and coiled a pretty piece of paper to line the inside. It’s not even attached, it’s just rolled up in there and hides how junky all those pens look:

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#2 – Diaper and wipe storage! Mind you, with my youngest pushing three we don’t go through very many, just a couple of Pull Ups each day, but it’s handy and I still use the wipes for everything. The basket keeps them close but covered – hooray!

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#3 – The mosaic glass bowl. Looks like just a pretty decor item, but inside it hides a multitude of sins. My husband’s X-box headphones, little cars that my son uses with his iPad games, lighters for the candles and more!

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#4 – DVD storage. Yup. You’d think that we would store them under the TV in the lovely console, but no. My two year old would HAVE AT IT and they would be destroyed. So they need to be kept safe and out of reach:

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I also have a small console/buffet in there. At first glance you would think it holds serving ware or bar items, but you’d be wrong…

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So there you have it.. some of my secret spots to stash the junk around my home! Part of why I started this blog was to show other moms and women the realness that is motherhood. It has segued a bit since then into home decor, recipes, DIY etc… but the main message is the same: this is life! Life is messy and cluttered and NOT perfect. I don’t ever strive to be a blog that has perfect photos and perfect lighting and perfect evvvvvvverything. I’m basically trying to keep the kids fed and the laundry done.

Even that can be a struggle.
No – I always feed my kids. lol… but the laundry? Well……… ha.

At least this way I can keep the things close that we always use, but at the end of the day it all buttons up pretty nicely.

So tidy! So nice! For now.

So tidy! So nice! For now.

I still can’t wait to move, and hopefully then everything will have a REAL place and I won’t have to place this little game of hide and seek. :)
MB